Friendzone and crushes

Yesterday, my classmate and I were talking about one of my best friends for he has such huge crush on her and wanting to "serenade" her. Though my best friends and I, being huge geeks and music junks, aren't interested in stuff like that, so obviously, she doesn't like him back the way he does.

And he just can't seem to accept that fact.

So then we went to the "friendzone" conversation. He was telling me that it wasn't fair and just that being friends isn't enough when you like someone. I remember this one post I saw on tumblr before about being friendzoned, and that was one of the best opinions I have laid my eyes on.

I do not believe in being "friendzoned".

I mean, it's sexist. I know that people don't like rejection but let's face it, in terms of those romantic/puppy love/infatuation feelings we get, not only men receives it. Women do as well. Say, when a girl likes a guy, would the guy always know about it? Would he be aware of it and be all 'ah,yes, i like you too'? And, would the girl be able to "get the guy" when she wants to? Okay, it's fine for girls to like guys, of course. But girls, admit it, you are almost (if not actually) invisible to that person.

And, if the girl made the first move to tell the guy, in all aspects of sexism, wouldn't the girl looklike a slut that way?

I'm not going to lie, I think as such most of the time as well, because yes, the guys are [expected and as society sees it,] to make the first move. But that doesn't mean that if you did, you couldn't receive rejection.

I find it funny when guys just do it. The serenading and get-the-girl part; and not even consider thinking of the 'I might be rejected' part and get mad when they get the 'no'.  It should always be a thought, it would be real nice to be positive, yes, but come on guys, rejection is a part in life and it applies on girls as well.

I think this is getting too long and therefore pointless? But this is the whole thought of it: it's like we're trying to apply the fact that it is okay for girls to be rejected and that guys aren't. Here's the thing: this whole "friendzone" thing shouldn't even be a thing. Getting rejected is normal. Actually, if I were the guy, I'd be thankful. Because even though she didn't like me that way I did with her, at least we get to be friends. I mean, that's better than nothing, right? Also, let's just get on with the fact that maybe, you're better off as friends. (Who knows, right? Maybe something like that would come. Just not at the moment. You know what they say, "the best relationships first came from friendships.")

Now, the crushes thing.

Earlier today, someone admitted that they had a crush on me. I remembered the time I used to get mad at the people who would have a crush on me. I don't even know why, I just did. Maybe because  I don't like their eyes glancing up at me and looking like lovesick puppies. But guess what, I did not get mad this time.

It was straight up. We were just talking about my brother and he went all, "I have a crush on you." And I just raised my eyebrows like I was unaware, said "Oh... that's.... cool." I knew about that beforehand, of course. I noticed it. I may not have the biggest interest on that particular field, but I notice the way people accomodate me.

He shrugged and went, "That's not of a big deal, right? It's just a crush." To be honest, I kind of felt bad. Not for not seeing him as that as well, but for the fact that they say things like that.

I appreciate it, really I do. Crushes are like one of the coolest things, because you know that someone admires you in a way. And that's nice.

Although it's weird how people make such a big deal out of it. Crushes are supposed to be a thing if you admire someone, not when you like them so bad you just want to serenade them and be their boyfriends or girlfriends and bang them and stuff. Also, people just gush and tease on you about it, which makes it a million times annoying.

Admiration is waaaay too different from liking someone in a deeper level. People just put maliciousness in it, which shouldn't be.

And so this has just been a lot of blubber from things I am not really good at.

'Til next time.

:-)